in an equal world, grants aimed specifically at either sex should not be necessary
Not quite, I’m afraid. Her point was essentially “I had very good grades, so I would have been hired anyway, but instead of hiring me normally, they hired me through this grant for women, which is a form of discrimination”. She’s not explicitly saying “kick the ladder when I’m up top”, but it’s essentially the conclusion. She mentions it on the “what’s wrong with academia” thingy video.
The woman who had to endure constant misogyny during her scientific career. You’re placing the responsibility on her instead of the people oppressing her